Kids, Phones and Online Classes: Setting Sensible Limits
Updated September 2026: in 2021 I wrote about the downsides of giving children their own phones during online schooling, especially YouTube's suggested videos and chat apps that could keep them on their phones for hours. I have rewritten it as a practical guide for parents on setting sensible limits.
In an earlier post I wrote about the disadvantages of giving children their own phones and how unsuitable advertisements could distract them. During the pandemic I noticed two more concerns. First, children looked up lessons on YouTube, and the suggested videos could pull them towards content unrelated to their studies. Second, schools needed chat apps for class updates and notes, but the same apps made it easy to chat and video call with friends for long periods. My view was that phones can do more harm than good for children if they are not supervised properly.
How do you make YouTube safer for children?
- Use YouTube Kids for younger children, or a supervised account for older ones.
- Turn off autoplay, so one video does not lead straight to another.
- Save study videos to a playlist in advance, so children do not need to search.
- Watch together sometimes, to see what the recommendations look like.
How do you manage chat apps used for school?
Check the app's privacy settings with your child, so only known contacts can reach them. Agree when the phone is used for school and when for friends. Many parents keep phones out of bedrooms at night.
Which parental controls are available?
Android phones can use Google Family Link, and iPhones have Screen Time. Both let you set app limits, approve downloads and schedule downtime. Parental control options change over time, so check the current settings on your child's device.
Is it better not to give a child a phone at all?
It depends on age, need and the child. A shared family device, or a basic phone for calls, can work for younger children. Whatever you choose, talking regularly about what they see online matters more than any single setting.
What if you are worried about your child's screen use?
Talk to them first, calmly, and agree limits together. If you are concerned about their wellbeing, speak to their school or a doctor.